Anger Management

A Calm, Personal Approach To Understanding Anger And Finding Lasting Change 

Anger arises when our needs are unmet. It’s a basic human emotion, critical to our development and survival. From infancy, we express anger to communicate our needs. However, as we grow, anger becomes more complex due to biological factors and societal influences.

Family beliefs and societal norms often shape how we express anger. Mismanaged anger can cause issues like physical problems, depression, anxiety, and strained relationships. Sometimes an individual learns to control others with angry outbursts. For others there is a feeling of lack of control and fear. It can also alienate us from loved ones, friends and work colleagues.

Anger causes physiological changes, such as increased heart rate and adrenaline. Without proper management, this can lead to an increase in blood pressure.

Over time, chronic anger can take a toll on your immune system and lead to an increase in blood pressure.

Managing your anger effectively can support both your physical and mental health.

Understanding your anger triggers and re-evaluating your thoughts around them are key steps in managing anger effectively.

It can be a family or cultural pattern that has never been questioned. In some families women are not allowed to express anger. In others being angry is acceptable and learned as the only way of expressing confusing emotions. Normal feelings like tiredness, stress and pain make us more susceptible to expressing anger. Physical illness and hormonal imbalances can all contribute to the problem.

We all have triggers for our anger whether it is a person pushing in front of a queue, a car driving too close to ours, or feeling we are being ignored. Understanding what they are and re-examining our thoughts around them can be among the first steps to managing anger.